In The Living Years

Most of you probably know the Mike and the Mechanics song, " In the Living Years". That song is a personal favorite of mind. It tells of the relationship of a father and son and how their differences effect them. Especially as loss is the hardest burden then unsaid words.

It has significance because it says volumes about me, my dad and his dad. My dad and Grandfather had a difficult relationship at times. In 1975, my Grandfather passed a few months before I was born. Dad wasn't there when he lost his dad. Thought he had more time to talk things out.

As the song says, "I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away. I didn't get to tell him all the things I had to say. I think I caught his spirit later that same year. I'm sure I heard his echoes in my baby's new born tears. I just wish I could of told him in the Living years."

I like to think I helped him deal with that loss. A new life to raise but I think dad never really grieved the loss of his dad. Buried the pain. I hope they have finally had that talk but maybe it doesn't matter now. A lasting peace. I try to hold the good and let go of the hurt but not always easy.

Dad always said he did not accomplish much but to me he did. The good outweighed the bad. I know there was so much left to tell him but there would never been enough time. Dad passed away in 2018 and still he is remembered and missed a great deal.

We didn’t always understand each other but understanding can only take you so far as love can get you the rest of the way.